David Krueger MD

Behavioral patterns and belief systems downloaded especially from parents in the first years of life become automatic, to operate without observation or awareness. Neuroscientists estimate that about 95% of our behaviors and core beliefs are pre-programmed in the subconscious mind, operating on autopilot. We rarely ever observe these behavior patterns and beliefs because they’re subconscious.

Then, we create two stories simultaneously:

• The surface story that we run our lives with conscious intentions and aspirations. This dialogue includes “This is what I want from life.” “These are my positive aspirations.” Yet the conscious mind is a tiny processor that controls the mind and brain systems less than 5% of the time.
  
  
• A subconscious story that ghostwrites behaviors—at times in a different direction than conscious intention. When your life and actions don’t meet your positive aspirations, the dialogue can include, “I can’t get what I want.” “The system keeps me from doing what I need.” “I don’t have what it takes.”

Recognition that you have operated on the download of other people’s beliefs into your subconscious mind presents the opportunity to forgive yourself. Recognition that all the people you have ever interacted with were operating from a similar automatic download of invisible behavioral/belief programs from their childhood subconscious mind may allow you to forgive them. (Maybe not because they deserve it, but because you do). They were personally unaware of much of their own contributions that invisibly impacted your life.

J. K. Rowling said, “There is an expiring date on blaming your parents for criticizing you for going the wrong direction.”
Acceptance – and especially forgiveness – in order to claim all your present energy and attention is a vital component to write a new life story. In the present moment whatever you think, feel, and experience is what you actively create. This recognition requires ownership and present responsibility for that story.

In adulthood, everything you experience you either create or accept.

But, positive thinking in itself doesn’t reprogram beliefs. Positive thoughts are generated in the conscious mind. Using positive self-talk in order to change behavior will have the same impact as talking positively to a software program on your computer in order to change it. You have to know how to revise the software. You have to know what to do with the old program as well as how to write a new one. And you may need a guide.

Excerpted and adapted from Live a New Life Story™: The Owner’s Guide by David Krueger MD, curriculum for New Life Story™ Coaches Training. www.NewLifeStoryCoaching.com and www.NewWellnessStory.com