Behavioral patterns and belief
systems downloaded especially from parents in the first years of
life become automatic, to operate without observation or awareness.
Neuroscientists estimate that about 95% of our behaviors and core
beliefs are pre-programmed in the subconscious mind, operating on
autopilot. We rarely ever observe these behavior patterns and
beliefs because they’re subconscious.
Then, we create two stories
The surface story that we run
our lives with conscious intentions and aspirations. This dialogue
includes “This is what I want from life.” “These are my
positive aspirations.” Yet the conscious mind is a tiny processor
that controls the mind and brain systems less than 5% of the time.
A subconscious story that
ghostwrites behaviors—at times in a different direction than
conscious intention. When your life and actions don’t meet your
positive aspirations, the dialogue can include, “I can’t get
what I want.” “The system keeps me from doing what I need.”
“I don’t have what it takes.”
Recognition that you have
operated on the download of other people’s beliefs into your
subconscious mind presents the opportunity to forgive yourself.
Recognition that all the people you have ever interacted with were
operating from a similar automatic download of invisible
behavioral/belief programs from
subconscious mind may allow you to forgive them. (Maybe not because
they deserve it, but because you
do). They were personally unaware of much of their own
contributions that invisibly impacted your life.
J. K. Rowling said, “There is
an expiring date on blaming your parents for criticizing you for
going the wrong direction.” Acceptance – and especially
forgiveness – in order to claim all your present energy and
attention is a vital component to write a new life story. In the
present moment whatever you think, feel, and experience is what you
actively create. This recognition requires ownership and present
responsibility for that story.
In adulthood, everything you
experience you either create
But, positive thinking in
reprogram beliefs. Positive thoughts are generated in the conscious
mind. Using positive self-talk in order to change behavior will
have the same impact as talking positively to a software program on
your computer in order to change it. You have to know how to revise
the software. You have to know what to do with the old program as
well as how to write a new one. And you may need a guide.